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Riding the Waves of Change: Healing Before and After the Painful Shift
Let’s be honest, change hurts. Whether it’s a relationship ending, shifting, or just feeling “different,” it can shake everything we thought we knew about ourselves and the people we love. But here’s the thing: pain doesn’t always mean something’s gone wrong. Sometimes, it’s just the heart’s way of saying, “It’s time to grow.” Before the Shift, When You Feel It Coming We often know before we know. Maybe it’s the distance in conversations, the shorter patience, or the sense t
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Understanding the Motives Behind Harmful Behaviour:
When we look at harmful or controlling behaviours, it’s easy to label them simply as “wrong” or “abusive.” But to create real change,...
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Sep 153 min read


The Impact of Shame on Men and Their Relationships
Shame is one of the most powerful — and often hidden — emotions men experience. Unlike guilt, which is about feeling bad for something...
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Sep 72 min read


Attachment in Relationships: Why It Matters and How It Shapes Connection
The way we connect to others in our adult relationships is often influenced by our earliest bonds — the ones we formed in childhood....
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Aug 312 min read


The Relationship Pyramid: Building Strong and Healthy Connections
Relationships don’t just stand on their own — they’re built, layer by layer, much like a pyramid. The Relationship Pyramid is a helpful...
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Aug 242 min read


Understanding Communication Styles in Relationships – And How They Shape Connection
Good communication is the heartbeat of healthy relationships. It’s not just what we say, but how we say it that shapes trust, intimacy,...
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Aug 173 min read


Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Shape a Relationship
When we think of building strong, lasting relationships, we often picture grand gestures or deep, heart-to-heart conversations. But the...
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Aug 102 min read


What Is Classed as Domestic Violence in Queensland, Australia?
Domestic and family violence (DFV) affects people from all walks of life, and in Queensland, the law clearly outlines what behaviours are...
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Aug 53 min read
The Power of Communication in Intimate Relationships
In every healthy intimate relationship—whether romantic, familial, or long-term partnership—communication is the lifeline. It’s not just...
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Jul 272 min read
How Men’s Behaviour Change Programs Work – And How They Help Me Change
As a counsellor working with men who have used violence in their relationships, I often meet people at a crossroads. Many of them are...
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Jul 253 min read
The Ripple Effects of Domestic Violence: Impact on Everyone Involved – And How We Can Do Better
Domestic violence (DV) doesn’t just hurt one person. It ripples through families, communities, workplaces, and generations. While the...
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Jul 253 min read
The Complexities of Relationships: Why Support Matters
Relationships are one of the most meaningful parts of our lives—and often, one of the most complex. Whether it’s with a partner, spouse,...
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Jul 142 min read


Welcome to Hayes Online Counselling
A space for reflection, healing, and real change — wherever you are. Hi and welcome. I’m Brett Hayes, and I want to personally thank you...
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Jul 82 min read


The River of Cruelty: Understanding the Pathway to Violence
In the work of domestic and family violence, we often come across the question: How does someone become abusive? One powerful way to...
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Jul 82 min read


Building Healthy Relationships Through Genuine Connection Strategies
In our fast-paced world, creating healthy relationships is more important than ever. By focusing on genuine connections, we can...
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Jul 73 min read


AOD Counselling: Support That Meets You Where You’re At
Facing challenges with alcohol or other drugs isn’t easy—and seeking support can feel like a big step. But you’re not alone. AOD (Alcohol...
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Jul 22 min read


Healthy Relationships: Couples Counseling Tips for Success
Building a healthy and strong relationship takes effort and commitment from both individuals involved. Whether you're newly dating or...
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May 292 min read


Breaking the Cycle: Men's Domestic Violence Counseling Strategies
Domestic and family violence (DFV) is a serious issue that impacts individuals, families, and communities across Australia. While...
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May 292 min read


Navigating Drug and Alcohol Counseling: Expert Advice
Seeking help for drug and alcohol addiction can be a difficult, yet life-changing decision. It’s a step that takes strength, honesty, and...
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May 292 min read
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